For Zoe Clementine: clemence vama a.k.a baba parp mudhara

had a conversation with my brother shingi the other day that brought to light the concept of what a good father is. in the midst of it we agreed that yes these days men are called a good dad just for physically being there but not completely engaged with their kids. (P.S shingi i still think you're an awesome dad). i think the reason we have a hard time understanding this "present" dad concept is because parp was such a force in our lives. when he was with you he was fully with you. parp lived for mother and us, we were the loves of his life and there was never a doubt. he lived to give us the best and pushed us (sometimes shoved us) to be the best. but in the pushing he allowed us to push back with our version of what was our best. that's a good father. he may not be here anymore and this week has been particularly sad but he's "presence" is always felt. he is not physically here but he's strong sometimes, especially during the teen years, overbearingly loving presence is felt and remembered all the time. i love my father with a depth i can't explain. he taught me how to love my family and friends as much as i do, by how deeply he loved me no matter what continent i was on. i didn't always understand his methods but i always knew why. i didn't understand why it was so important that he name me after his own mother until i had my own child and made sure she had his name. we will keep you alive through the stories you told and the stories we now have to tell. your name will live in Ari Vama and Zoe Clementine, your drive and passion will live in all your kids and grand kids. and even though Zoe never met you, when you met again one day i pray she'll feel like she's known you forever.

Loss

Psalm 4:8 (NLT)
In peace I will lie down and sleep, for you alone, O Lord, will keep me safe.

For those who have lost a loved one we see love in a different way
For those who have lost we cherish each day. Each day is a gift becomes more than just a saying
For those who have lost songs that play make our hearts remember more poignantly
For those who have lost every smile and gesture in your child is a reminder of what they're missing or how you see them in her
For those who have lost crying while smiling just means we feel them more that day
For those who have lost family mean
more each day
For those who've lost, your heart breaks more deeply when more are lost..

RIP

Cousin Tapiwa 1974-September 4th 2011
Cousin Enesia 1990- December 2nd 2011.

Cousin Edwin 1970-December 9th 2011
For those who have lost memories are all we have, so you don't stop talking about them
For those who have lost we still talk about him as if he were still here
For those that lost we vow to never lose that way again, saying I love you every chance we get
For those who have lost we listen more attentively and act more willingly when God reminds us to call someone just tell them you love them
For those who have lost there are lessons learnt in death that life can never teach.
For those who have lost God's grace gets us through each day

We love you Parp

October 8th 1945-December 10th 2010